AVAILABLE IN-PERSON AND ONLINE IN CALIFORNIA
Couples Therapy in Redondo Beach
Rediscover the hope and passion you had in the beginning.
YOUR LIFE TOGETHER HAD SO MUCH POTENTIAL
Somewhere between the careers, the kids, and everything else, you lost that spark—and now you're not sure how to find it again.
At one point, you made sense—you had the same drive, the same values, the same vision for what life could look like. But lately, the conversations that used to come easily turn into arguments. The things you used to do together have faded or become another chore you do on autopilot.
You stare at each other over dinner and struggle for conversation. You share a home, a schedule, and a life—and somehow feel more alone than ever. You touch each other out of obligation (if you touch each other at all).
You wonder, where did things go so wrong?
You might...
Love each other and keep hurting each other, cycling through the same arguments without ever resolving them.
Have built an impressive life together on paper but somewhere along the way started feeling more like business partners than romantic ones.
Be dealing with the aftermath of infidelity or betrayal and you don’t know whether that broken trust can be repaired.
Be navigating a major life transition—a new baby, a career change, a blended family, in-laws, a loss—and the stress of it has driven a wedge between you.
Deal with unaddressed mental health challenges, childhood memories, or past experiences that show up in the relationship in ways that feel hopeless to work around.
Want to stay together but you aren’t sure anymore whether that's even possible—and need someone to help you figure that out before you make a decision either of you will regret.
You're here—and you're still trying. That willingness to try is the foundation of this work.
THE PROBLEM ISN’T THAT YOU STOPPED LOVING EACH OTHER
You need someone who can hold up a mirror to what's actually happening between you—without taking sides or sugarcoating the truth.
Most couples don't need to be told what's wrong. They need to understand why it keeps happening—and why every attempt to fix it on their own seems to land them right back where they started.
The work we do is structured and direct. We slow things down in the room so you can identify the thoughts and feelings behind your behaviors, and build the specific tools you need to communicate and reconnect in ways that last beyond the session. You'll get direct coaching and advice on the practical day-to-day dynamics that are making things harder than they need to be.
You don't need to be handled carefully. You need to be told the truth, and that's what you'll get here.
I'll get the full picture of what you've each brought into this relationship—your history, your childhood wounds, your attachment style, and the dynamics that were already in place long before the problems started. The arguments you keep having aren't usually about what they appear to be about, and until we understand what's driving them, it’s impossible to find lasting resolutions.
I also bring something most couples therapists can't: firsthand experience navigating an intercultural marriage, building a family under the pressure of a demanding career, and working through the kind of conflict that comes when two strong-willed people are trying to build a life together.
I have experience helping couples with...
Communication
Conflict resolution
Loss of passion and intimacy
Sexual problems
Money problems
Coparenting
Conscious uncoupling
Premarital counseling
Marital counseling
Interfaith issues
Parenting
Miscarriage/Infertility
Empty Nest Syndrome
Coping with mental health diagnosis
Division of labor
Intercultural issues
Coping with medical diagnosis
Infidelity & Betrayal
Big Life Changes
Blending of families
Methods We’ll Use in Couples Therapy
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We identify the underlying emotional needs and attachment patterns driving your conflict—because most relationship arguments aren't really about the dishes or the finances. They're about feeling unseen, unheard, or unloved. EFT helps you and your partner understand what's happening beneath the surface and build a more secure emotional bond from there.
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Drawing on decades of research on what makes relationships work and what makes them fail, we identify the specific patterns—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling—that are eroding your connection and replace them with evidence-based tools for communication, conflict management, and deeper friendship between partners.
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We explore how each partner's childhood experiences and early relationships shaped what they bring to this one—including the unconscious ways you may be recreating old relationship patterns in your current dynamic. Imago work creates the kind of deep understanding between partners that makes genuine empathy possible, often for the first time.
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For couples in which emotional intensity has built up and found its way into conversations, we use Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) techniques to build the regulation skills that help both partners stay present, communicate without escalating, and make decisions from a place of clarity rather than reactivity.
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We get direct and honest about the relational patterns that are damaging your partnership and build a more conscious, equal, and connected relationship in their place. RLT is particularly effective for high-achieving couples where individual success has come at the cost of relational health.
YOU CHOSE EACH OTHER ONCE.
Here's what it looks like to choose each other again. You can...
Stop having the same fight on repeat and finally get to what's behind it—so that the energy you've been pouring into conflict can go back into the relationship.
Understand each other's histories well enough that your partner's reactions stop feeling like attacks and start making sense—and your own stop catching you off guard.
Finish a hard conversation by feeling heard rather than defeated—because you've built a way to repair that works for both of you.
Rebuild after betrayal in a way that's honest and structured enough that trust becomes possible again—not just on the surface, but in the way you feel about each other day to day.
Stay present in the room during the hard moments instead of shutting down or escalating—so that the conversations that used to blow everything up start leading somewhere productive instead.
Wake up next to someone who feels like your partner again—present, connected, and part of the same team.
YOU DIDN'T BUILD THIS LIFE TOGETHER TO WALK AWAY FROM IT WHEN THINGS GET HARD
A part of you still believes in your relationship. Let's start there.
In-person in Redondo Beach and online in California.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Sessions are structured, direct, and focused on making real progress—not just processing feelings in a room together. I get to know both partners individually before we begin, and from there we work through the specific issues you came in with while building the tools to handle what comes up between sessions. I give direct coaching and feedback, and I don't shy away from telling you what I'm seeing.
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That depends on what you're working on and how deep the issues run. Some couples come in with a specific challenge and make significant progress in a focused engagement. Others are dealing with longer-standing patterns that take more time to shift. What I can tell you is that every session moves toward something concrete—and we'll check in regularly to make sure you're getting what you came for.
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Both partners need to be willing to show up and do the work—but they don't both need to be equally enthusiastic about it at the start. One motivated partner is often enough to begin shifting the dynamic. Reach out and we can talk through where you are and what makes sense.
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My qualifications include formal training in Emotion-Focused Couples Therapy, the Gottman Method, Imago Therapy, DBT, and Relational Life Therapy—all evidence-based approaches with strong track records in couples work. But beyond the clinical training, I bring something most couples therapists can't: I've been in a long-term intercultural marriage, built a family under the pressure of a demanding career, and navigated the kind of conflict that comes when two strong-willed people are trying to build a life together. I understand your dynamic from the inside.
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Honestly, that depends on both of you. Couples therapy gives you the tools, the framework, and the guided space to do the work—but the work itself has to come from you. What I can tell you is that the couples who make real progress are the ones who show up willing to be honest, willing to be uncomfortable, and willing to look at their own role in the dynamic rather than just their partner's. If both of you are willing to do that, the chances of things getting significantly better are high. If only one of you is, we'll figure out what's possible from there.
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Most couples therapy focuses on the surface conflict—the communication patterns, the arguments, the behaviors that are causing friction. What it often misses is what's underneath all of that: the childhood wounds, the attachment patterns, and the unresolved experiences each partner brought into the relationship long before the problems started. My approach is direct, structured, and focused on getting to the root of what's going on—not just giving you communication tools that fall apart the moment things get heated.
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Everything discussed in our sessions is confidential and protected by law.
Within the couple, I follow a No Secrets policy. If one of you shares something with me privately that directly affects the relationship or the work we're doing together, I'll encourage you to bring it into the room rather than keeping it between us. Secrets undermine trust, and trust is the foundation a healthy relationship is built on. I'll walk you both through this policy before we begin.
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Yes, and I encourage it. I believe when things are good, you have the bandwidth to do the kind of proactive work that protects the relationship long-term. We'll build communication skills that hold up under pressure, get clear on your individual and shared goals for the marriage, and identify the places where your differences could become friction points before they ever get the chance to.